Family relations..WATCH your words!

Relating to our family is at it's best TOUGH! Especially if you are trying to behave as Jesus would. Familiy knows all of your flaws, what gets you roused faster than anyone so with all that said wow, how hard it is to be loving with the ones we love but as I have found in my own marriage you get more with honey than vinegar. I find many times and situations when I just want to call it how I see it, but that is the problem. How 'I' see it isn't really how it is. I need God's help because he sees the whole person, he would never say, "that selfish sister who can't see anything else but her own needs," not that I have any idea what God actually knows but I imagine he would say, "poor girl, she loves her sister so much and is already sad that she has to go, oh how she loves her and loves spending time with her sister, show her how much you love her too." I know he knows our hearts better than we know our own, but just providing me with more insight to my situation helps so much with me trying to do as Christ might. One of the problems is it's not always immediately there, Christ hasn't shot some new info that helps with that situation at that second, so I have had to learn to bite my tounge and pray. I pray that I can be loving in the situation and that God will help me through and help me have the strength not to answer my way. My way by nature is not nice, not good at all. Our words that hurt can be everlasting. Always remembered are those hurtful things that damage even though their intent might ot have been to damage. When we got back to Texas from our last trip to SD in July, Justin(my husband) had this horrible bite looking thing on his leg, and it was terribly painful and then itchy. When we looked online at different types of spider bites we thought it may be brown recluse, so I called mom and told her we thought Justin had been bite by a spider at her house. It ended up being poisen ivy and all over his body, still not sure how or where he got it. So I had totally forgotten about all of this until we came back home for Thanksgiving. My mom on 3 counts on my first days visit has said the room we were staying in was immaculate no spiders, very clean. I didn't catch on because as I said I had totally forgotten it. I apparently hurt my moms feelings when I told her justin may have been biten by a spider, so much so that she was frantically hermedically sealing our room before our visit. I never meant to hurt her feelings and I am not even sure of all that I said but case in point some times we stay stuff that isn't going to do good, so that's my other new idea. I am going to try to examine what I am about to say and if their is no purpose, no good in it, why waste the time and energy on it.
I was reading in the book of Luke today and here it is as reference to my thoughts.
Luke 10:38-42 (New International Version)
At the Home of Martha and Mary 38As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet listening to what he said. 40But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, "Lord, don't you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!"
41"Martha, Martha," the Lord answered, "you are worried and upset about many things, 42but only one thing is needed.[a] Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her."
Can you imagine Martha scurring around making all the food for Thanksgiving, decorating the table, making name tags, trying to keep the house clean though there is tons of company and then seeing her lazy sister there just listening! She gets so frustrated she shouts out, "hey dad, tell her to help me she is just lazing around and I am stuck here working!" Poor Martha wasn't doing what she was doing with a glad heart so the bitterness and resentment grew. Then God helps her realize that name tags don't matter, nor do the decorations and keeping the house clean is a loosing battle but what she is missing out on is so much better, so much more important. I pray that we and our families will all FOCUS on what really matter this holiday season and we will respond as Jesus would to more of our situations. Love you all and Happy Turkey Day!!!